13 TED Talks for National Bullying Prevention Month

Welcome to my playlist of talks which I feel unpack different aspects of the problems, solutions and experiences we’re facing in our modern world of bullying – both on and offline. As October is National Bullying Prevention Month in the US, I hope you’ll not only watch these talks but also consider ways you might help to move the conversation on these issues forward. Be an Upstander: show support to a target of bullying behavior or online harassment; report a bullying situation; or intervene on behalf of someone if it feels safe for you.

Shane Koyczan: To This Day … for the bullied and beautiful

Shane speaks to young people suffering from bullying in such a profoundly moving, empathic way that lifts the spirit and validates our humanity … if you can’t see anything beautiful about yourself, get a better mirror, look a little closer … 

Andrew Solomon: How the worst moments in our lives make us who we are

Rather than a search for meaning in the adversity in our lives, we need to forge meaning and build identity. Forging meaning is about changing yourself. Building identity is about changing the world. And in a sentence that speaks especially to me, he says, When we’re ashamed, we can’t tell our stories, and stories are the foundation of identity.

Nancy Lublin: How data from a crisis text line is saving lives

Sometimes it’s not enough to try to help. Sometimes you need to be so creative, so savvy, so plain smart that you realize to reach today’s young people you need to use their megaphone – texting. If you text us, “I want to die,” or “I want to kill myself,” the algorithm reads that, you’re code orange, and you become number one in the queue. So we can handle severity, not chronological.

Jon Ronson: When online shaming goes too far

Jon Ronson paints such a vivid, unforgettable portrait of how a human being’s entire existence can be brutally and cruelly destroyed in an instant by an Internet mob. He uses humor and intelligence to call us out on our public shaming and it works.

Ashley Judd: How online abuse of women has spiraled out of control

Courageous actress Ashley Judd stands on the TEDWomen stage and repeats the filthy, vile slurs flung at her by anonymous hordes on Twitter. The audience is silent – shocked and disheartened. There is an important difference, she says, between free speech and hate speech. And our legislators need to write and pass laws that reflect that.

Safwat Saleem: Why I keep speaking up, even when people mock my accent

Safwat grew up embarrassed about his accent and his stuttering. With great insights and an infectious sense of humor he deconstructs what it means to be different from the norm and how he challenges the preexisting notion of normal with my work and with my voice.

Trisha Prabhu: Rethink before you type | TEDxTeen

Teenager Trisha Prabhu argues that rather than put the onus of stopping cyberbullying on the target (ie. she should report the situation, she should block the bully, she should seek out help from others) it’s time to challenge those engaging in bullying behavior and find a way to make them stop. Trisha applied science and tech to the problem and created a tool called Rethink by which a message appears before the offensive post is sent, asking if the sender really wants to hurt or humiliate the recipient. (A startling 93.4% backed down.)

Charlie Cooper: How little people can make a big difference | TEDxJCUCairns

Nine year old Charlie wore glasses, struggled with school and had no friends. Then he came up with an ingenious idea – the Buddy Bench. Other children should approach any child sitting alone on the buddy bench and invite him to play, or go for a walk or share a laugh. Charlie Cooper will steal your heart.

Tina Meier: What Kids Have To Say About Bullying And How To End It | TEDxBend

Tina’s 13 year old daughter Megan, a victim of a cruel online cyberbullying hoax, committed suicide. She thinks about Megan every moment of every day. And while nothing will bring her precious daughter back, she hopes that by sharing Megan’s story she can help other parents. Put down your cell phones, she says. Really listen to your kids. Don’t interrupt, don’t rush to “fix” things, don’t tell them to ignore the bullying. Just listen . . .

Sally Kohn: Don’t like clickbait? Don’t click

I originally had a quote from this great talk in my TED talk but, sadly, had to cut for time. Understanding how our clicking behavior contributes to a culture of humiliation that feeds (cyber)bullying is key. As Sally explains, Everything we blog, everything we Tweet, and everything we click is a public act of making media. We are the new editors.

Megan Phelps-Roper: I grew up in the Westboro Baptist Church. Here’s why I left

Megan Phelps-Roper shares a personal and powerful story of what can happen when we open ourselves to listening to ideological viewpoints different than our own.

Brené Brown: Listening to shame 

Brené Brown has arguably done more to open the dialogues around shame than any other thinker today – and she does it brilliantly. In this TED talk she argues that vulnerability is not weakness. She defines vulnerability as emotional risk, exposure, uncertainty – and our most accurate measurement of courage. Brené’s talks have personally helped me immensely.

Thandie Newton: Embracing otherness, embracing myself

Thandie Newton speaks eloquently to anyone who has ever felt like “The Other.” She draws a vivid picture of how being different – including being biracial – shaped her sense of identity. And she describes the path she took to accepting her otherness and ultimately blossoming.

from TED Blog https://blog.ted.com/13-ted-talks-for-national-bullying-prevention-month/
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